Blog : Are gay guys capable of meaninful relationships?

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1/21/2008 8:13 am

Are gay guys capable of meaninful relationships?

..I once heard that men, are not capable of having a loving meaningful relationship with another guy..and be faithful. Now my brother ..who is devoted gay will beg the differ. As I explore more into my bi sexuality it seems like guys just want to have sex...I mean don't get me wrong..I love sex as well...but what about the entire relationship? let me know ur feelings or experience if u agree with me don't and do tell me why or why thanks.

deaf69 59M

1/21/2008 12:10 pm

This site is slower than Outpersonals.
Sex and Relationships are two different things.
Like u said u were married with 4 kids. Marriage is a work in progress. So is Relationships. Sex is Entertainment. Something to release your stress, hormones, whatever. What Gay man doesn't want a same thing. Aka a house with a white picket fence. You are still young. Patience is it's virtues. Let's other gay men know what u have to offer beside your hard body. You have brains? U have a paid for home? What is your hobby?

Hmm, U have heard men are not capable of haveing a loving relationship with another guy.

Have u heard of gay couples who wants to adopt a kid?
Their lives are a work in progress. they are loyal to each other.

there probably is another bi man who is looking for the same things u do.

I'm glad u have a meaningful relationships with your gay brother.

Have a great 2008.

silvabacqbher 77M

1/21/2008 9:43 pm

Yes, gay men can have meaningful relationships.

jimmy_027 43M

2/5/2008 6:16 am

thanks all for your comments, and hope the question didn't come across as if I believe the myth..and yes ..I heard of gay couples adopting..say Rosie O'..and many others..and I beg to differ that gay men don't won't a house with a white picket fence. Thanks all for ur participation.

ohijim 78M

2/16/2008 8:54 pm

My relationship lasted 14 years. I was devoted and found out that just love isn't enough to keep a relationship alive. I haven't seen him for 18 years and he still crosses my mind. My Life has been better for having lived with and loved him. I Think your better off discovering what your life holds for you, instead of what other people think. But of course that what I think.... thanks for reading me! All the best!

hairguy1000 112M

4/2/2008 9:47 pm

We are as capable as any one else to engage in meaningful and lasting
relationships. The question as with anyone else is, "Are we willing to put the effort into the process?". This is an issue in which we should not identify our gayness as the determining condition of capability; instead is it mankind's capability? Where are the faults,
the stumbling blocks that many (if not most) people encounter in their relationships? Some of these are (from personal experience);
communication: do you voice true feelings/concerns; do you listen and truly hear; do you compromise or is there a lop-sidedness; do you
work toward a common goal (growing together); is there absolute trust
and respect and honesty; have you stopped caring because the thrill of the courtship phase is over; can you still embrace the sex as vital (though perhaps less intense); do you want to change things about your partner; do you want to grow together in a totally supportive fashion; do you say hurtful, irretractable things. The list goes on and you each can add your own view/experience to this draft. So YES!! WE ARE CAPABLE OF RELATIONSHIPS.
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