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Love (with freedom) Aug 18, 2008 1:44 am
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Love is:
This is a difficult one for me, describing love that is.
If I tell you what it is, that may mean I don't know because it's something more than I can describe. I can describe some of the ways it's expressed but it is more than that. The incompleteness of words does not do it justice. I do know that it comes to you itself, you can't force it (it happens with freedom) and it makes you feel complete and at peace with the one you're loving. To love with freedom is not asking anything in return, not even to feel that you are giving something-and it is only such love that can know freedom. So freedom and love go together. It does not make the other one dependent on you. It is expressed in many ways and it is something you feel together. How it comes to you depends on your own way of working toward it. Love is considerate, sensitive and open.

What love is not:
I can tell you what it isn't then maybe you'll come across what it is through intuition and feeling. Some say, "I love my car, I love my job, I love my this and that. When I love, I leave the me and mine out of it. Love to me is not possessive or controlling. Love is not a reaction. Love is often hedged about with anxiety, jealousy and fear which implies that we depend inwardly on another, we want to be loved and is this love?. We dont just love and leave it there but we ask something in return and in that very asking we become dependent. If I love you because you love me then that is mere trade, a thing to be bought in the market, it is not love.

part 2 under construction
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Deception (intended/unintended) Aug 13, 2008 2:31 am
Mood: 18, 1042 Views
Under construction
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What is death? Aug 10, 2008 3:48 am
Mood: 18, 1131 Views
Death is an abstract idea with no real substance to it. Being dead can't be experienced cause you wouldn't be dead if you could. We think someone is dead cause we see an inanimate corpse laying there. This is not proof of death but proof that the body is dead. Maybe we continue in another form. Energy isn't created or destroyed just changes from one thing to another. Maybe the body is just a vehicle of expression for the spirit to use.

We may fear losing what we have more than death itself. It's partly fear of the unknown and fear of letting go of what we have acquired in this world.
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Unconditioned Self Aug 9, 2008 5:16 am
Mood: 18, 1044 Views
I am not my body, I am that which obseves what the body is doing.
I am not my mind, I am that which observes what the mind is doing.
I am limitless in essence.
I am the observer or onlooker.
I am limited only by acquired conditioning(environment/genetics). Conditioning is there for worldly identification and functionality.
I am (as identification) is an abstraction.

Does this sound like BS? Your view please!
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First Date Aug 8, 2008 4:24 am
Mood: 18, 1117 Views
I don't expect too much. I think the person is worth being patient with and see this opportunity as a work in progress. I don't look for instant gratification or a quick fix so I expect us to be eager to learn more about one another (and this can take time)
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Loving someone vs being in love (making love) Jul 25, 2008 6:02 am
Mood: 18, 1202 Views
I've had this problem with others for years where there is a conflict between my "loving them" and them wanting me to "be in love" with them. It is said that being in love is more intimate (especially in sex) cause you're in direct contact with (sharing the same feeling) how they feel. I've been told by this person I've been involved with that loving someone is more platonic and makes me more of a good samaritan or parent whereby I'm utilizing philosophical and ethical ideals to treat them in a caring and loving way. So then it is said, "you don't love me, Jesus loves me". Or, "you are referring to what you claim to be a higher authority" in loving me, sort of like a universal love. Is this really intimate? Is real love based more on personal intimacy than an impersonal standard? Am I in love with someone or in love with a standard of what it is?

Can feelings of friendship be as strong and meaningful as feelings in sexual intimacy?
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Dumping someone... Mar 9, 2008 4:09 am
Mood: 18, 1437 Views
Friends don't "dump" one another but can "leave" one another with an understanding and respect. Sometimes, lovers dump each other cause they see each other like a product for their use-like a store bought one (or meat market). I can see this if you've been around someone for a short time or are just using them as a lover (or more accurately, "my lover") in the possessive sense. Also, a lover may only be a bum buddy (or sex partner)with a release of testosterone and the love chemical oxytocin but these can wear off till next time. Friendship doesn't wear off as easily and can enhance a relationship and extend involvement. It may be a component in loving one another.

Agree or disagree? This blog is not chiselled in stone. I can be incorrect or missing something.
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Me versus not me (or, Us and them) Feb 20, 2008 3:06 am
Mood: 18, 1572 Views
I feel sad when people judge through their acquired ideas about themselves. They compare themselves to others with their persona(conditioning, masks,facade, ego etc.). It can become a me and not me awareness. The me's of a certain type find other ones of the same kind to form a club or mutual admiration group. These clubs tend to be in opposition to those who don't belong, thinking that the others will weaken them unless it benefits their own type. This creates a fractured society of self-interest groups where there seems to be a lack of collaboration. I try to go to the heart or core of what we are. After all, we are more than our limited self-image. This is a more truthful revealing of us to one another. There can be a lack of trust when we size up one another by our outer appearances and this can cause the idea of separateness. Inner appearance has more of a common thread and can't help but be what it actually is. It's inclusive rather than exclusive allowing people to work together for the good of the whole rather than just the good of the group. The outer appearance relies on shrewdness and beta level manipulation to achieve it's own ends. We should use the inner self to inform the outer and not vice versa. When we use the outer form for guidance we tend to have a lopsided view of reality. That is, we find the things that will bolster that image but neglect the inner truth. I am not in denial of the persona but think that it has been over-emphasized and is therefore out of balance with the inner person (or true self). It is necessary in this realm for worldly identification and functionality but some people lose themselves in it. The true self brings about understanding, truth, awareness and genuine intent. Those who follow there outer conditioning tend to understand only that which befits their own type. They will get along with others only as long as they're getting their own agenda fulfilled. We can be paranoid of one another because by putting on a front we are not true to ourselves and thus are not true to others. We misrepresent who we truly are. As such, you don't know who you can trust. You can only trust what you want, which can work up to a point but in the big picture it doesn't seem so.
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Good 1st impression (or front) can be misleading, true? Aug 28, 2007 12:24 am
Mood: 18, 2616 Views
Putting up a front is not being true to myself (or the other person) because looking your best to someone hides your faults and weaknesses. This is fine in business where you don't get too personally involved or for a quick fling (or quick fix) where you'll never find out what the person is really about. However, if I want a friendship (which takes time to develop) some of the faults start to show up somewhere down the line. It's like a bit of a deception from the start. As such, I like to be upfront from the start. I am more vulnerable than the average person cause I'm an open book from the start that presents myself as I am and not as how I want to look to someone to win him/her over. I can take what I am now and improve on it to the best of my ability as can my friend. We seem to be conditioned to look our best due to our idea of success. This success is achieved through competition for a good career. But a good friendship seems to be used the same way. In our career we only have to look good and perform good but I think personal relationships should allow you to be yourself with your good and bad points. Then we can approach one another with freedom and genuineness and truly care about one another and learn from our mistakes. We are conditioned more for success (through business) than personal relationships.

I understand professionalism has it's place in elevated survival.

Why no comments all this time? You can disagree then I might see where this blog may be at fault. Help me with this please.
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What is consciousness? Aug 22, 2007 1:52 am
Mood: 18, 2742 Views
This is not an opinion or belief - I am trying to find out. Any comments?

The brain was made to interact with form. Form of itself isn’t real (no thing is real). What is real uses form (or object) to express itself as experience. So, it is true that nothing is real but this is so when consciousness or energy is withdrawn from it. We make things real by using them as our constructs to live out a novel experience. Without this we may be only zero point energy floating around in a formless boundless field or ocean of energy. Sometimes this energy creates form to amuse itself. The brain is the interface between consciousness and it’s object. The brain interprets the 3rd (and 4th?) dimension (a bio-computer)– consciousness may originate from another dimension.
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